The #1 Big Idea:
The 15 Steps:
- Step 1: Realize the difference between high achievers and average people.
- Step 2: Learn a new definition of failure.
- Step 3: Remove the YOU from failure.
- Step 4: Take action and reduce fear!
- Step 5: Change your response to failure by accepting responsibility.
- Step 6: Don’t let failure from outside get inside.
- Step 7: Say goodbye to yesterday.
- Step 8: Change yourself and your world changes.
- Step 9: Get over yourself and start giving!
- Step 10: Find the good in bad experiences.
- Step 11: Try something harder. Take a risk!
- Step 12: Learn from bad experience and strive for success.
- Step 13: Work on the weakness.
- Step 14: Understand there’s no difference between success and failure.
- Step 15: Get up, get over and get going.
Step 1: Realize the difference between high achievers and average people.
High achievers and average people have different perceptions and responses to failure. Failure is more common than success. Poverty is more common than wealth.
Step 2: Learn a new definition of failure.
“Failure is a price we pay to achieve success” – John Maxwell.
- Misconceptions about failure:
- 1) People think failure is avoidable – NOT true!
- 2) People think failure is an event but it is a process
- 3) People think failure is objective
- 4) People think failure is the enemy but it is actually good
- 5) People think failure is irreversible and don’t see the big picture
- 6) People think failure is a stigma but it’s not forever
- 7) People think failure is final
Step 3: Remove the YOU from failure.
Most people experience damaging thoughts after experiencing failure. Tell yourself “I’m not a failure. I just failed . I made a mistake.”
- 1) Reject rejection
- 2) See failure as temporary
- 3) See it as an isolated image. Not personal
- 4) Have realistic expectations
- 5) Focus on strengths
- 6) Achievers keep trying and changing
- 7) Achievers bounce back
Step 4: Take action and reduce fear!
“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing” – George Bernard.
- After failure, most people start to experience:
- 1) Paralysis
- 2) Procrastination
- 3) Purposelessness
Step 5: Change your response to failure by accepting responsibility.
Most people don’t take responsibility of failure and can’t get out of the failure freeway.
- 1) They blow up
- 2) They cover up
- 3) They speed up
- 4) They back up
- 5) They give up
Step 6: Don’t let failure from outside get inside.
We cannot control the hands dealt, only what we do in life. Win the war in your own thinking first by learning secrets of contentment. Murphy’s law is if anything bad can happen, it will happen at the worst possible time. Law of human behavior describes we get just what we expect.
- Contentment is NOT:
- 1) Containing your emotions
- 2) Maintaining your current situation
- 3) Obtaining position and power
Step 7: Say goodbye to yesterday.
You’ll always get another chance so put the past behind.
- Signs of not letting go of the past:
- 1) Comparison
- 2) Rationalization and excuses
- 3) Isolation and withdrawal
- 4) Regret
- 5) Bitterness
Step 8: Change yourself and your world changes.
Check to see if YOU are the problem.
- 1) See yourself clearly
- 2) Admit your flaws honestly
- 3) Discover your strengths joyfully
- 4) Build on your strengths passionately
Step 9: Get over yourself and start giving!
Add value to others.
- 1) Think of others rather than yourself
- 2) Find out what others need and what matters most to them
- 3) Reading the needs of others
Step 10: Find the good in bad experiences.
- 1) Adversity creates resilience
- 2) Adversity develops maturity
- 3) Adversity pushes success
- 4) Adversity provides greater opportunities
- 5) Adversity prompts innovation
- 6) Adversity brings unexpected benefits
- 7) Adversity motivates
Step 11: Try something harder. Take a risk!
Risk should be evaluated based on the VALUE of the goal. If you are succeeding too much, you aren’t making enough mistakes.
- Types of security traps:
- 1) Embarrassment trap – fear of embarrassment.
- 2) Rationalizations trap – “it’s not that important.”
- 3) Unrealistic expectations – “it’s not easy!”
- 4) Fairness trap – “life’s not fair.”
- 5) Timing trap – keeps waiting for the “perfect time.”
- 6) Inspiration trap – keeps waiting for inspiration.
Step 12: Learn from bad experience and strive for success.
- Ask yourself:
- 1) What caused the failure?
- 2) Where did things break down? Was what happened truly a failure or I fell short?
- 3) What successes are contained in the failure?
- 4) What can I learn from what happened?
- 5) Am I grateful for the experience?
- 6) How can I turn this into a success?
- 7) Who can help me?
- 8) Where do I go from here?
Step 13: Work on the weakness.
- 1) Poor people skill
- 2) Negative Attitude
- 3) Bad fit
- 4) Lack of focus
- 5) Weak commitment
- 6) Unwillingness to change
- 7) Shortcut mindset
- 8) Relying on talent alone
- 9) Acting on poor info
- 10) Not having goals
- 1) Find a purpose
- A) Get next to people with great desire
- B) Develop discontent with status quo
- C) Search for goal
- D) Put efforts
- E) Visualize
- 2) Don’t make excuses
- 3) Incentives
- 4) Determination
Step 14: Understand there’s no difference between success and failure.
- FORWARD acronym:
- Finalize your goal
- Risk failing by taking action
- Welcome mistakes
- Advanced based on character (after been knocked down)
- Reevaluate your progress continually
- Develop new strategies to succeed
Step 15: Get up, get over and get going.
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